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Domestic Violence, Stalking, Harassment, Bullying, Coercive Relationships
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LINKS on Domestic Violencehttp://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/domestic_violence.php SupportLineTelephone new Helpline number 01708 765200: Provides details of counsellors and agencies throughout the UK. Emotional support/ befriending via phone, post and email. For children, young adults, adults, and particularly anyone socially isolated, vulnerable or at risk, and victims of any form of abuse. http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/hh/ BBC website with a great deal of useful information, articles and links on domestic violence issues http://www.refuge.org.uk 24 Hour National Domestic Violence Freephone Helpline 0808 2000 247 is run in partnership with Women's Aid and Refuge (see next Link) Refuge is a national charity for women and children experiencing domestic violence. Their Links page lists many useful organisations. http://womensaid.org.uk National network providing support, information packs, campaigning to improve laws and services for women and children facing domestic violence. They have now launched Hideout, a special Domestic Violence website for children and young people (see next Link). http://www.thehideout.org.uk Specially for children and young people wanting information and support if they are facing or seeing Domestic Violence. Includes 'What Can I Do', 'Helping a Friend', 'Exploring my Feelings'. Worth a visit from young people and adults. http://www.refuge.org.uk/linksAndUsefulNumbers.html Refuge lists a number of useful Links offering support for women and children from multi-cultural backgrounds. http://www.lgbt-dv.org/html/rainbow Broken Rainbow website specifically for lesbians, gays, bisexuals, transsexuals concerned about Domestic Violence. http://www.respect.uk.net Respect is a registered charity helping men and their partners learn more about what causes Domestic Violence and how to cope with the issues. Further information at the BBC website (see next Link). http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/hh/pp01/shtml Free Article by Jo Todd 'Help for perpetrators of domestic violence'
STALKING, Harassment, Bullying, Coercive Relationshiips
http://www.nss.org.uk Stalking information particularly relevant for UK http://www.support4learning.org.uk/counselling/bullying___harassment.cfm JOSEPH ROWNTREE FOUNDATION: http://www.jrf.org.uk :: JRF LINKS - http://www.jrf.org.uk/links SAINSBURY CENTRE for MENTAL HEALTH www.scmh.org.uk/ Download the Bradley Report suggestions on ways to improve the treatment of people with mental health problems in the criminal justice system STALKING Books & Links'Stalking & Psychosexual Obsession: Psychological Perspectives for Prevention, Policing & Treatment' edited by Julian Boon & Lorraine Sheridan 'Jailed Stalker Learns Fate': http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/1530209.stm Diane Wetendorf Abuse of Power site www.abuseofpower.info NOTE: In the UK some Stalking/Bullying/Harassment cases can come under Criminal Law rather than Civil Law - See article at Network for Surviving Stalking at http://www.nss.org.uk/legal/criminallaw.html More on SAFETY, Books, Videos on this page
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SAFETY TIPS for being in contact both on and off-line
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SAFETY BOOKS 'Murder.com' - How death can be only a click away, by Christopher Berry-Dee & Steven Morris;
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ANGER'Beating Anger': Where your anger comes from, How to recognise your type of anger, the four key triggers of anger' by Mike Fisher - 'Some people can't control their anger, other people can't begin to express it.' Evening Standard 'Managing Anger' by Gael Lindenfield Factors in Violence for those who are sometimes violent STRESS & HEALTH'Teach Yourself: Managing Stress' by Terry Looker & Olga Gregson TRAUMA 8 POST TRAUMA STRESS'Coping with Life's Traumas' by Gladeana McMahon |
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The following is summarised from 'Beating Anger' by Mike Fisher
The reason for brief summaries and lists of books is to show CHANGES CAN BE MADE to behaviour - We do not ALL have to believe that NOTHING can be changed! Try to read something on the subject, see what you think, find what suits YOU best |
GROUPSGROUPS and personal relationships can have coercive or cult-like qualities, and it can be difficult to see them for what they are and to get help and understanding. Influence can include a subtle and more seductive approach than something more obviously controlling or obtrusive. More information on the Groups, Cults, Scams page. Visit http://www.rickross.com for a lead-in to information on coercive personal relationships including Cults, a Forum & Booklist. |
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Whether it gets called ostracism, rejection, dissing or whatever, the effects of silent treatment can be hard to take. Click for 'Why rejection hurts: a common neural alarm system for physical and social pain' by Naomi Eisenberger and Matthew Lieberman http://www.neuro-psa.org.uk/download/rejection.pdf Ostracism: The Cruel Power of Silence, an All in the Mind radio interview http://www.abc.net.au/rn/science/mind/stories/s1066040.htm Kipling Williams has researched ostracism and its effects, and you can search on Google or any search engine for details on his work. Some books he has authored are available from Amazon: Amazon often have second-hand books which are much cheaper! You can read up about books and authors without having to buy |
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Scapegoating and ostracism have similarities:
Someone or some people can get blamed or ignored Actually it can happen to anyone, and for no particular reason |
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The Royalist forces of King Charles I (were pitted) against the Parliamentarian armies of Oliver Cromwell. Coventry; a Parliamentarian stronghold said to have been used to house hundreds of Royalist prisoners captured by Cromwell's forces. A Royalist in Coventry would, no doubt, have been very unpopular, so "to be sent to Coventry" came to be a popular saying meaning, "to be ostracized." It has also been suggested that Coventry was used as a place of execution during the same period, in which case "to be sent to Coventry" signaled a fate somewhat worse than having no one to talk to. In 1642 Charles I was suspected of being a Catholic in secret. Consequently he and Parliament frequently clashed. In the end the king left London and established an army, as did Parliament. These events sowed the seeds for the English Civil War. However it wasn't until almost a century after the English Civil Wars that the idiom was used to describe a person who was to be excluded from a circle of friends. The first occurrence of it used in this manner in print was recorded in 1765, and is generally taken to refer to the Civil War. A third likelihood is a popular explanation is that the name Coventry is a derivative of a Covin-tree from feudal times and thought to be an oak which stood in front of the castle for hanging criminals. Used as a gallows, those to be executed were "sent to the covin-tree." Still popular among the British labor unions today the phrase is used to punish strikebreakers. A powerful tool for social pressure, the person sent to Coventry is given the silent treatment until they eventually give up and resign. |
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